Seven (7) Things to do during dating

Kasule Jacob
Feb 26, 2023
3 min read

Dating in a general sense is considered a social activity that involves two people getting to know each other in a romantic context. In a Christian context and setting, dating should be approached with the goal of finding a partner who shares one's values, beliefs, and vision for the future. This mean it would be wise not to start dating if you are either not ready and able to deal with the baggage of relationship, and, or if you are not ready for marriage.

Here are seven ways young people can prepare for dating in a healthy Christian way:

(1). Establish your values and priorities:

Before you start dating, take the time to establish your values and priorities. This will help you find a partner who shares your beliefs and values. You already need to know these things before you start looking for a partner. Do not wait until you find someone to begin figuring out your values and what is important to you.

(2). Seek guidance from mentors:

Seek guidance from older Christians who have experience in dating and relationships. They can provide valuable advice and help you avoid common pitfalls. Do not consider yourself a know it all kind of person, we learn something new everyday. Endeavor to find mentors and allow them speak into your life.

(3). Pray for guidance:

Pray for guidance in your dating life. Ask God to lead you, to prepare you, and to prepare your spouse / partner to be. Whatever you do, do not leave God out of your relationship. You won't build a healthy, happy, joyful, and lasting relationship without the power of God working in both your hearts and in your relationship.

(4). Set boundaries:

Setting boundaries is an important part of dating in a healthy Christian way. This means deciding what you are and are not comfortable with in terms of physical intimacy and other areas of your relationship. Make sure you set these boundaries right at the initial stage of your relationship, and when you do, work on honoring it. It is part of a discipline and practice you will appreciate in the future whether you get married or not. It in part defines who you are as a person.

(5). Prioritize communication:

Good communication is essential in any relationship. Make sure you communicate your feelings and expectations openly and honestly with your partner. Learn to express your feelings right from the dating stage. Do not wait until you get married to begin letting your spouse know they are hurting you.

(6). Be accountable:

It's important to have accountability in your dating life. Share your dating experiences with a trusted friend or mentor who can provide support and guidance. We all need accountability partners, make sure there is someone who holds you accountable, someone who matters enough that you will actually listen to if and when they speak. If you do not or cannot respect that person, even if they are your best friend, they are not fit to be your accountability partner or mentor, because you will not listen to them or take them seriously when they speak.

(7). Stay committed to your faith:

Keep your faith at the center of your relationship. Attend church together, pray together, and seek guidance from God as you navigate your relationship. Do not let your relationship make you disappear from Church fellowship. If you show your boyfriend or girlfriend that Church is less important to you when you are dating, it will be a struggle to try and start bringing them to Church after you are married.

Remember, dating is just one step in the journey of finding a life partner. It's important to take your time, stay grounded in your faith, and seek God's guidance in your relationships. When you start dating, or if you are already dating someone, be intentional, because everything you do during your dating period will influence how your marriage will be in some degree.

All the best as you go through this exciting stage of your life.